Monday, May 6, 2013

Baby Bears have squishy butts!

I don't recall the exact date but I know it was early Spring. Maybe 2008. I read in the Coeur d' Alene Press that a major sports/hunting warehouse was going to have baby bears for people to hold if they would like. I told Joel that I wanted to hold the baby bear. 

We had gone a year earlier and got to hold a baby wolf pup. Joel wouldn't hold the wolf pup because they are really hurting the ratio of deer/elk/moose to wolves. They are kind of taking over up here in the Great White Northern State of Idaho. Being a hunter he didn't want to hold the baby wolf. It is something I will never forget. I love, love dogs but to hold a little wolf that to my absolute delight and pleasure started to howl in my hands when his daddy outside howled was AMAZING to me. The power in that little 5 day old wolf pup as he howled his hardest  and really you could tell he was putting his whole self into that howl.  We have visited the wolves many times and it has been a favorite place to take out of state visitors when they come to visit. Most of them are in awe of the amazing animals. 

So, back to the baby bear. We stood in line, in the snow waiting with 100's of people that were wanting to have their children hold the baby bears. I was super excited that we were about 11th in line. Joel and I were talking about the baby bear and I asked him if he wanted to hold it. He said no not really because it just doesn't interest him that much. Well, when we got up and it was our turn to hold the baby bear he came into the holding area with me and he held that baby bear too. The fur was so soft but the thing that amazed me is that they have really squishy butts and bodies. Like a stuffed Teddy Bear. I thought they would feel more muscular but they are very squishy and soft. 

There was a contest to name the baby bears that they brought up from Yellow  Stone that day and I wrote down the name Sierra for the bear that Joel and I held... it was a girl. About a month later I got a letter in the mail and they said they picked my name and sent us free tickets to visit the bear park at Yellow Stone. 

I almost forgot, they are very loud when they miss their moms which made me sad and they bite really hard!

Just another memory of my time in North Idaho.

Blessings,
Annie

Sunday, May 5, 2013

I'm so blessed

The past two months have been so stressful. The love of my life is giving up all that he loves in a place to live to take me someplace warm and where all of my cardiologists are recommending we go to.  We were heading to Texas and together we prayed about it and decided it would be for the best for us to be closer to family. Sending resumes to Arizona and California, it seems that God wants us back in CA. 

Right now we have no family when I'm in the hospital and sick. It is so hard on Joel and I want so badly for him to have support. Now, I don't want to take away from my dear sweet friend Tari that is always here to support and love us. I just think my hubby needs some family to support him. 

It seems that God maybe bringing us full circle. We moved from Folsom and Joel was working in El Dorado Hills CA when we moved here and now he is flying to CA on Friday the 10th for another interview after turning down 3 jobs in San Luis County for a job that he thinks will suit him well in El Dorado Hills CA. 

When I moved to Idaho I was so closed off in my heart. I would just as soon get into a fight physically or verbally rather than allow myself to really feel. I would joke around about serious things so I wouldn't "Feel".  As I prepare to leave Idaho after over 10 years, I am a new person. I try hard to esteem others above myself, not always succeeding but living that way has been such a blessing to me. I have gotten so many close relationships. Relationships that are real and meaningful. I'm thankful for the time I've been given here. I'm thankful for the community that has embraced me just as I was when I first got here: mean, honer y, self-centered and afraid of emotions and showing them. I still struggle with this but I'm getting closer to where I should be. 

I'm thankful for the true love and support that my husband has shown me. Gosh that man is in love with me and I sure do love him! I'm so lucky to have Joel. He is an amazingly kind, loving and protective man of God. His love for me and what he is willing to do for me, to keep me around here on earth for as long as God allows, well it sometimes takes my breath away. 

The hours that he has spent in the ER with me watching as they poke and prod me and draw blood time after time, always standing beside me, hovering and praying for me. The hours that he has spent sitting in waiting rooms to have the Doctor come and tell him what the outcome is, The hours that he sits in the hospital room well before and after visiting hours, sneaking me in a low carb mocha fat free Big Train with sugar free Peppermint Paddy.... Words can't say how lucky I am to have him!  Offering to throw Dr. Spyra out the window of the 3rd story because he doesn't like him and knows that I'm not that fond of him either. Breaking his butt to keep a home for us that we love and now we are losing. That breaks my heart.

I know I wasn't purposely born with a heart defect but I sure do feel responsible about taking him away from all he loves. This is the 3rd house we have bought and the first time we have lost one. 

We can fight for this house but it will take a separation from each other. I will have to live in a warmer state for the cold months and he will have to stay here. This is not even a possibility to him. I have tried to talk him into it so he will be where he loves but he has told me that he loves wherever I am. Where I am is home to him. 

Just feeling really blessed and lucky today. Now my man is going to bar b q Tri Tip just because he knows It's my favorite. 

I hope that you are all as lucky as I've been with someone that loves you no matter what. Someone who will swim shark infested waters to get you a glass of iced tea. Someone who will give up everything he loves to be beside you for as long as you are on the earth.

Blessings,
Annie


Wednesday, May 1, 2013

God Please change my heart..... literally!

Today is a really bad day! I've been MIA on the blogging for a while now because life got super busy. My husband and I have to move to a warmer state. That came directly from the Cardiologist's mouth. 

My heart condition makes it nearly impossible to live here in this beautiful country. I have been in constant pain for about 2 weeks. One thing that is a "Trigger" for my heart condition is stress and anxiety. Well, baby, I have got some of that going on. Like too many Americans, we owe more money on our house than it is worth. That has left us with a choice we never thought we'd face. Short sale or foreclosure. This is our 3rd time of buying a home and we love to be home owners. We've been so blessed to be home owners that the thought of going back to renting is so scary. Add to that my husband has worked in this job the longest of any jobs he's ever had and now he has to leave it. 

We thought about me going to CA or AZ or some other state that is warmer until he can get a job there and follow but we have been married almost 28 years and we can't bear to be without each other for long. He has been trying like crazy to get a job in another state and so many have offered him a job but because of the huge increase in the cost of living it will be to move to one of those states compared to Idaho, he had to turn them down. So, now, we are waiting..... waiting to hear about another possibility. 

I have been packing boxes and going through things and for some crazy reason in between there I decided to start a new business. I am so in love with the new business. I am now not just on disability but now I have my own business that I can run out of my home and when I'm able physically to do some skin care or color classes I will do them. I'm praying that this will be a blessing to our finances and a blessing to me to meet other women and get to pamper them with a wonderful product and make them feel special in the process. That's what this life is all about right? Putting others before you. Treat others as Jesus did. I want so badly to help when I see someone hurting.

My neighbor across the street is in her 70's and has terminal cancer. I went to visit her today and she asked me, "Annie, how are you so brave and what keeps you going when you are in such pain?" I laughed and told her I'm a stubborn Native American not knowing what to say. She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, "really, what is your secret?"  I was about to leave but I saw that she needed to know my secret. Here is my secret. I think about Paul formerly known as Saul in the Bible. There is a little piece of his life in there where he asks the Lord to please take his affliction from him and he asked God 3 times and 3 times the Lord said, "My Grace is sufficient for you". That answer that God gave to Paul tells me that for whatever reason, BIG PICTURE stuff, God had a plan for Paul to continue with his affliction. I wonder why God didn't heal Paul. The affliction Paul suffered isn't known but I think to myself wouldn't Paul have been a much better disciple and Leader without an affliction? That makes me think about me before my heart condition. I was swimming upstream. I would think I knew what I needed to do with my life and the rug was yanked out from under me. I think about others much more now than I did before I had my heart attack and found out I supposedly am not long for this life. Now, I take the time to speak to someone that is lonely. I smile at that long faced person in the store who looks like they are so sad. I want to assist. I want others to know that no matter what your "affliction" maybe. God still has a plan for you. 

Even on a day like today when the pain in my chest is bringing me to tears, I'm here for some purpose that only the Lord knows. 

One of the things that I hope to accomplish before I die is that I can rekindle a relationship with my sisters and to help my husband rekindle relationships with his family. He is so bitter and angry that the majority of his brothers and sisters have not acknowledged my health or even how he is handling it. He is hurt and when you are hurt mentally I think that is a lot harder to get over than being hurt physically. 

I want everyone that I know. Everyone in my family. Every one of my friends.... please know that I truly loved/love each one of you and I hope for nothing but the very best for all of you. This world is a scary place at times but it is also full of loveliness and love. Make it your mission to be the bringer of joy. The face of peace and love and kindness.

That's about it for today. Maybe I'll be around to write more another day, hopefully. 

God's Blessings to each of you,
Annie 

Sunday, April 7, 2013

The Spoon Theory ; By Chritine Miserandino (Borrowing this to make a point of how I feel each day)


The Spoon Theory

by Christine Miserandino www.butyoudontlooksick.com

My best friend and I were in the diner, talking. As usual, it was very late and we were eating French fries with gravy. Like normal girls our age, we spent a lot of time in the diner while in college, and most of the time we spent talking about boys, music or trivial things, that seemed very important at the time. We never got serious about anything in particular and spent most of our time laughing.
As I went to take some of my medicine with a snack as I usually did, she watched me with an awkward kind of stare, instead of continuing the conversation. She then asked me out of the blue what it felt like to have Lupus and be sick. I was shocked not only because she asked the random question, but also because I assumed she knew all there was to know about Lupus. She came to doctors with me, she saw me walk with a cane, and throw up in the bathroom. She had seen me cry in pain, what else was there to know?
I started to ramble on about pills, and aches and pains, but she kept pursuing, and didn’t seem satisfied with my answers. I was a little surprised as being my roommate in college and friend for years; I thought she already knew the medical definition of Lupus. Then she looked at me with a face every sick person knows well, the face of pure curiosity about something no one healthy can truly understand. She asked what it felt like, not physically, but what it felt like to be me, to be sick.
As I tried to gain my composure, I glanced around the table for help or guidance, or at least stall for time to think. I was trying to find the right words. How do I answer a question I never was able to answer for myself? How do I explain every detail of every day being effected, and give the emotions a sick person goes through with clarity. I could have given up, cracked a joke like I usually do, and changed the subject, but I remember thinking if I don’t try to explain this, how could I ever expect her to understand. If I can’t explain this to my best friend, how could I explain my world to anyone else? I had to at least try.
At that moment, the spoon theory was born. I quickly grabbed every spoon on the table; hell I grabbed spoons off of the other tables. I looked at her in the eyes and said “Here you go, you have Lupus”. She looked at me slightly confused, as anyone would when they are being handed a bouquet of spoons. The cold metal spoons clanked in my hands, as I grouped them together and shoved them into her hands.
I explained that the difference in being sick and being healthy is having to make choices or to consciously think about things when the rest of the world doesn’t have to. The healthy have the luxury of a life without choices, a gift most people take for granted.
Most people start the day with unlimited amount of possibilities, and energy to do whatever they desire, especially young people. For the most part, they do not need to worry about the effects of their actions. So for my explanation, I used spoons to convey this point. I wanted something for her to actually hold, for me to then take away, since most people who get sick feel a “loss” of a life they once knew. If I was in control of taking away the spoons, then she would know what it feels like to have someone or something else, in this case Lupus, being in control.
She grabbed the spoons with excitement. She didn’t understand what I was doing, but she is always up for a good time, so I guess she thought I was cracking a joke of some kind like I usually do when talking about touchy topics. Little did she know how serious I would become?
I asked her to count her spoons. She asked why, and I explained that when you are healthy you expect to have a never-ending supply of “spoons”. But when you have to now plan your day, you need to know exactly how many “spoons” you are starting with. It doesn’t guarantee that you might not lose some along the way, but at least it helps to know where you are starting. She counted out 12 spoons. She laughed and said she wanted more. I said no, and I knew right away that this little game would work, when she looked disappointed, and we hadn’t even started yet. I’ve wanted more “spoons” for years and haven’t found a way yet to get more, why should she? I also told her to always be conscious of how many she had, and not to drop them because she can never forget she has Lupus.
I asked her to list off the tasks of her day, including the most simple. As, she rattled off daily chores, or just fun things to do; I explained how each one would cost her a spoon. When she jumped right into getting ready for work as her first task of the morning, I cut her off and took away a spoon. I practically jumped down her throat. I said ” No! You don’t just get up. You have to crack open your eyes, and then realize you are late. You didn’t sleep well the night before. You have to crawl out of bed, and then you have to make your self something to eat before you can do anything else, because if you don’t, you can’t take your medicine, and if you don’t take your medicine you might as well give up all your spoons for today and tomorrow too.” I quickly took away a spoon and she realized she hasn’t even gotten dressed yet. Showering cost her spoon, just for washing her hair and shaving her legs. Reaching high and low that early in the morning could actually cost more than one spoon, but I figured I would give her a break; I didn’t want to scare her right away. Getting dressed was worth another spoon. I stopped her and broke down every task to show her how every little detail needs to be thought about. You cannot simply just throw clothes on when you are sick. I explained that I have to see what clothes I can physically put on, if my hands hurt that day buttons are out of the question. If I have bruises that day, I need to wear long sleeves, and if I have a fever I need a sweater to stay warm and so on. If my hair is falling out I need to spend more time to look presentable, and then you need to factor in another 5 minutes for feeling badly that it took you 2 hours to do all this.
I think she was starting to understand when she theoretically didn’t even get to work, and she was left with 6 spoons. I then explained to her that she needed to choose the rest of her day wisely, since when your “spoons” are gone, they are gone. Sometimes you can borrow against tomorrow’s “spoons”, but just think how hard tomorrow will be with less “spoons”. I also needed to explain that a person who is sick always lives with the looming thought that tomorrow may be the day that a cold comes, or an infection, or any number of things that could be very dangerous. So you do not want to run low on “spoons”, because you never know when you truly will need them. I didn’t want to depress her, but I needed to be realistic, and unfortunately being prepared for the worst is part of a real day for me.
We went through the rest of the day, and she slowly learned that skipping lunch would cost her a spoon, as well as standing on a train, or even typing at her computer too long. She was forced to make choices and think about things differently. Hypothetically, she had to choose not to run errands, so that she could eat dinner that night.
When we got to the end of her pretend day, she said she was hungry. I summarized that she had to eat dinner but she only had one spoon left. If she cooked, she wouldn’t have enough energy to clean the pots. If she went out for dinner, she might be too tired to drive home safely. Then I also explained, that I didn’t even bother to add into this game, that she was so nauseous, that cooking was probably out of the question anyway. So she decided to make soup, it was easy. I then said it is only 7pm, you have the rest of the night but maybe end up with one spoon, so you can do something fun, or clean your apartment, or do chores, but you can’t do it all.
I rarely see her emotional, so when I saw her upset I knew maybe I was getting through to her. I didn’t want my friend to be upset, but at the same time I was happy to think finally maybe someone understood me a little bit. She had tears in her eyes and asked quietly “Christine, How do you do it? Do you really do this everyday?” I explained that some days were worse then others; some days I have more spoons then most. But I can never make it go away and I can’t forget about it, I always have to think about it. I handed her a spoon I had been holding in reserve. I said simply, “I have learned to live life with an extra spoon in my pocket, in reserve. You need to always be prepared.”
Its hard, the hardest thing I ever had to learn is to slow down, and not do everything. I fight this to this day. I hate feeling left out, having to choose to stay home, or to not get things done that I want to. I wanted her to feel that frustration. I wanted her to understand, that everything everyone else does comes so easy, but for me it is one hundred little jobs in one. I need to think about the weather, my temperature that day, and the whole day’s plans before I can attack any one given thing. When other people can simply do things, I have to attack it and make a plan like I am strategizing a war. It is in that lifestyle, the difference between being sick and healthy. It is the beautiful ability to not think and just do. I miss that freedom. I miss never having to count “spoons”.
After we were emotional and talked about this for a little while longer, I sensed she was sad. Maybe she finally understood. Maybe she realized that she never could truly and honestly say she understands. But at least now she might not complain so much when I can’t go out for dinner some nights, or when I never seem to make it to her house and she always has to drive to mine. I gave her a hug when we walked out of the diner. I had the one spoon in my hand and I said “Don’t worry. I see this as a blessing. I have been forced to think about everything I do. Do you know how many spoons people waste everyday? I don’t have room for wasted time, or wasted “spoons” and I chose to spend this time with you.”
Ever since this night, I have used the spoon theory to explain my life to many people. In fact, my family and friends refer to spoons all the time. It has been a code word for what I can and cannot do. Once people understand the spoon theory they seem to understand me better, but I also think they live their life a little differently too. I think it isn’t just good for understanding Lupus, but anyone dealing with any disability or illness. Hopefully, they don’t take so much for granted or their life in general. I give a piece of myself, in every sense of the word when I do anything. It has become an inside joke. I have become famous for saying to people jokingly that they should feel special when I spend time with them, because they have one of my “spoons”.

A tiny bit sad

We had someone come and look at our house that is for sale again yesterday morning. I didn't get the message until around 9:30 for a showing between the hours of 9:45 - 11:45.I rushed around putting things here and there preparing for the people to come look at the house. I didn't have time to reflect because I was in a rush. 

Joel came home first and he and I started to get everything down from the garage attack that he has stored up there. That was quite a chore. Neither one of us realized there was so much stuff up there. 

After we brought all the boxes down he set them aside and we started going through the stuff on the shelves that we are taking with us for our move. We parted with some things and I half hazardously went through our bedroom closet for some things and a closet in the hallway. We had a pretty good size amount of things for a yard sale today. Well, a garage sale if nothing else. I thought since Joel was leaving next Saturday to fly to CA to meet with the jobs that want to see him, I would get him to clean the garage up. It was a wreck and I'm so proud of him for doing a bit with it. 

I opened the tack that my Dad had given to me and I see memories of growing up. Shiloh's hackamore. Tons of reins that have silver on them. Then I see my Saddles. The top and bottom of the 3 are so precious to me. plan on working on getting them all spiffed up when I move to CA. My Grandad's saddle is over 100 years old. It needs only new sheep skin in it. My Dad's saddle that is at least 50 years old or more needs a little sheep skin and a small piece of leather that came off the horn to be sown back on.

Being around the saddles memories flooding me from the past about riding horses almost daily. Saddling up my own horse or going bareback depending on the weather and my mood. I think to myself, "Will I have another chance to use these saddles?" My energy level is so low. I feel rushed about everything like there is no time. 

(This section has been taken out due to offending people with my words)


Only the strong stay strong with the help of God. all things are possible through Christ who gives me strength. 

I will try to not write too many posts like this. My heart is heavy today and I haven't slept well. 

Finally Brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable.... if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.

Phippians 4:8 New International Version

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Early morning sadness today.

I love Northern Idaho so much. I love that this state is very pro God, Country and of coarse love and family. I have made some amazing changes and friends in Northern Idaho. Since coming here I've lost 300 pounds. Learned to really love myself. Made lifelong friends that include many I've never actually met in person but only on the internet. I've lost 2 of my fur babies to old age and cancer. I've lost both of my brothers. I've got a team of physicians that I love and trust. I have people actual people that I feel I can say anything to and they will still love me anyway.

I'm so sad that we are having to leave here. I wonder if it would be any easier if we wanted to leave here... of coarse it would. I know what we are getting back into in CA. I love CA too but it is so different than Northern Idaho. I am a bit worried that Joel will be angry after we get there. Angry that he had to leave here. Both of us love the snow. I know Joel loves me more than Idaho but I hate the notion that he is having to leave because of my health and the Docs basically not giving him a choice. I hope that he still gets to go hunting in CA. That he takes the time and continues to do the things he loves to do up here. I hope he and I can do some fishing. He is looking forward to playing cards with my parents and games with his sisters and brothers. That makes me smile. He misses his family too.

I've been admitted to the hospital 4 times since the beginning of 2013! Four times hooked up for a couple of days at least of straight nitro as they try to get the vasal spasaming to stop. I adore the staff at KMC but I really, really don't want to have to ever go back there. Knowing the nurses on the PCU floor by name and about their families is too much for me to know. I'm glad that they are so kind and gentle with me but I'm ready to try to be hospital/Nitro IV free! I hope our move to California will be where God wants us. It seems that SLO county is where the jobs are calling Joel. He has sent out about 15 resumes to all over CA but the calls only come for interviews from SLO County. That seemed like the one place Joel wasn't wanting to move to.

I think that I have been very worried (secretly) about moving and sad. I'm trying to be happy and look at all things on the bright side but, It is hard and I've been denying my sadness. I believe by not allowing myself to be sad or emotional I am making my body sick with fevers. They come on me almost every day and I feel worn down and icky. Not just heart stuff but other stuff going on. I am going to try to allow myself to cry if I feel it coming on. To not stop the flow of tears. It's okay that I will be sad to move from Idaho. This has been a wonderful home to us despite all the loss. We have gained way more than we have lost!

 (prayer) Thank you God for bringing us to Idaho for a Season and thank you for sending us back home for a season. We are grateful for the opportunities to serve you Father and for the opportunities to be with family again. We love you Lord and we trust you. Please help us to remember that when the sadness comes on...You are the author of our lives and we are merely the blessed ones You are directing. I pray that God will make a way before us. Clear the path Lord that You want us to be on. Help our necks not be stiff. Help our eyes to see and ears to hear. Help our hearts to love and be willing to go.

In Jesus Name,
Amen




Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Short Move to Missouri

I grew up as you know if you've read my other blogs on a ranch, very active. I used to eat a lot. I didn't know it then but it was my way of stuffing my feelings. The only thing is that back then I worked hard every day and so the extra calories may not have been so extra.  My Dad would call me "hollow Leg" sometimes. His little way of teasing me about my ability to eat and eat. As I got older and had more responsibility at home because of my Mom's constant absence, I started to eat less and less. At one point my Dad literally made me sit at the table and eat while he watched because he was afraid I was "catching anorexia" as he put it. (I love my Daddy and his funny expressions).

By the time I got into high school I still cooked dinner for my Dad and sister 4 nights a week. 2 nights a week were my baby sister's turn to cook and every single week on those 2 nights we had; hot dogs and french fries and then the other thing she cooked was this stuff my older sisters and brothers and my mom called "macaroni surprise". Basically it is macaroni, tomato sauce and grated cheese. I hated it and still do to this day. The last night of the week for dinner was my Dad's job and his dinner night if it was on the week of payday for him we would go out to eat at a seafood place in Atascadero that had all you can eat shrimp night every Wednesday. If the week wasn't a payday, Dad would make either breakfast for dinner or.... whatever was left over in the frig he would put into a skillet and mix it together with seasonings. It looked gross and I think it was left over cooking skills from his days in the Navy. He called it S.O.S. (Shit on a shingle) as he would put toast with it for us.

I was working at Kragen Auto Parts and actually climbing the ladder there. They had me working at 4 different stores in the same county and all of the supervisor's wanted me to come to their store full time as a 3rd. My baby sister had moved to Missouri to live with my Mom when my Dad remarried my Step mom in 1983. During the summer of 1984 they came to California for a visit. I missed my sister so much. I had been using any kind of numbing device I could get my hands on except food. One of my bosses told me he would pay me to have sex with him. My outlook on mankind was really bad. This was not only a married man but he had a little girl and a brand new baby boy.  He would grab his crotch area and tell me that just looking at me makes him hurt. It was some serious sexual harassment but I felt like it was my fault or I was doing something wrong. I felt like I was not needed anymore anyplace. My Dad had someone to take care of him now that cooked every meal and made every lunch. I was just not necessary.

While I was visiting my baby sister and Mom at my oldest sister's house, my mother saw that I was taking pills and she blackmailed me into going back to Missouri with her by telling me she would tell my Dad I'm using drugs if I don't come with her. I didn't want to break my Dad's heart and I knew that he was being taken care of now with my Step-Mom. So, I went. I knew that it was for me literally like getting into the car with the devil. Not to say my mother was the devil but she and I absolutely did not get along. Even for a minute. We argued about everything and when she said something crazy I would call her on it which would cause a problem.

The drive to Missouri was hell. I was persona non grata in this car. Baby sister didn't want her hair to blow or look bad so we couldn't have  the windows opened. My mother said it cost too  much to have the AC on so we drove in a hot car through the CA, AZ, NM deserts sweating like crazy. When we got to Texas I was so screwed up without my pills that I couldn't sleep. I was wide awake in Amarillo and my Mom and baby sister wanted to stop for the night there. I remember them sleeping in the motel room and I tried to sleep but I got up and like a typical stupid 17 year old I walked the streets around the motel room which was next door to a truck stop. I was so heartbroken and lonely. The rest of the trip got a bit better because the air cooled off a lot as we got closer to Oklahoma. I was really enjoying the scenery and the new places that I'd never seen. I was intrigued by the "Turn Pike" and how you absolutely can't get off of them. It was strange. I remember as we were driving through Oklahoma heading towards Tulsa there were things on the road all scrunched up. Dead animals of some sort. Finally after some heavy scrutinizing, I realized these were tiny little snapping turtles trying to get across the road. I remember asking my mom to stop so I could get one of these darling creatures and save it's life. But on we traveled. No stopping on the turn pikes.

We finally made it to my mother and sister's house in Missouri. It was a mansion. I mean the kind of mansion you would see in the old south like on a plantation. It had huge columns in the front that you couldn't even wrap your arms around. The steps were grand and everything in the front of the house was grand and instead of a living room like we have in CA or a family room they had a parlor. My mother was so desperate to get to know her brothers and sisters that she didn't grow up with in Missouri that she invited one of her brothers and his family to live with her and baby sister in this mansion. My mother and baby sister lived upstairs and the Uncle and his family lived downstairs.

Upstairs was 6 bedrooms, a kitchen, a bathroom and a "sitting room" The first week I had my own bedroom but I was so lonely that I moved my bed into my baby sister's room. Downstairs was 3 or 4 bedrooms, the Parlor, a dining room, a kitchen and a family room. Along the back of this house attached to the family room was a screened in porch the full length of the house.

Within hours of getting to Missouri my Uncle who was a deputy sheriff for that town, took me to a park and asked me to go to a group of young men that were standing in a circle and buy some drugs. I was shocked because I hadn't ever bought drugs. The pills I was taking were over the counter sleeping pills. I told him that I don't take drugs and he told me, "everyone knows that CA is the land of the fruits and the nuts and everyone there does drugs". Thus started a very bad vibe between my Uncle and me. He was obvious in his dislike for me as I am a traitor to his sister by staying with my Daddy. Anything that went wrong in the house he blamed me. I would tell him I didn't do ... but he wouldn't believe me. I decided since he thinks I'm such a pain in the butt, I will be one.

I started to do silly teenage things to get back at him. I taped maxi pads on the back of his police car spelling out "PIG", I would ring the doorbell in the front of the house and run to the back when I knew he was sleeping. I wasn't allowed to eat any of the food there without paying for it which meant I had to get a job. There was no minimum wage in Missouri at that time and I found a job as a busboy at a nice restaurant in town for the evenings. My mother refused to allow me to drive her car the 2 miles to work or pick me up and take me. It wasn't the fact that it was far but it was when I got off work at 2 a.m. after the bar/grill closed I had to walk home in the pitch black night right past some seedy railroad tracks. All time time when I talked to my Daddy in CA he told me he would gladly send me money to come home. I kept telling him nope, I have a job, I got myself into this place and I will get myself back home.

So, my $2.00 per hour job plus tips if the waitresses were nice, landed me about $125 a week. Now my mother wanted rent money from me. She said I can't eat the food anymore unless I paid for it. I whined and fought with her about how unfair that was because Baby sister didn't have to pay anything nor get a job neither did her brother and his family. She wouldn't budge so I started to eat one meal a day at the restaurant where I worked for free.  I refused to pay her rent until someone else in that house started to do that too. Our relationship went from bad to worse and I honestly spent barely any time with her while I was in Missouri. I mostly worked every shift that was available to me and tried to save enough money to buy a plane ticket home.

After living there for about two months time, I asked my baby sister what was inside of a building right next to the house. She told me it was where Buster was kept. I asked her what is Buster and she told me it was my Uncle's patrol dog that he used to walk the beat with. A Doberman Pincer. I went into the garage to see Buster as I love dogs and I was so horrified and shocked at what I found in that garage. Buster was rail thin. Bone thin. He was standing in about a half a foot of dog crap. He was chained to the wall and had zero water in a bone dry water bucket. Zero food. I asked Baby sister where his food is and she said he doesn't have any. We are not supposed to mess with Buster as he is Uncle's police dog. I was furious!!!!! I went into the house and grabbed my mom's car keys with her yelling at me for taking them. I told her I'm going to the store and she better not mess with me. I went to the store and bought a huge bag of dog food, soap because he had flees and ticks so bad and some dog treats. I drove back home and fed him way less than he should get because I didn't want him to get sick. I gave him water, again giving him way less than he wanted but knowing he would make himself sick with it. I unchained him from the wall and pet him and bathed him and let him out in the sunshine. I started the job of cleaning up the crap he was standing in and it took me most of my day off. I was so furious. I decided that this dog needed to escape this house so I called the police dept and asked if animal cruelty is against the law in Missouri. The lady at the other end said it was and she took a report and said she would sent an officer out to the address right away. Lucky me, my Uncle was on duty that day and he was the officer they sent out to the location. He was furious but so was I. I knew that this dog couldn't stand up for himself so I just got ready for battle.

My Uncle gets out of his police car and unbuckles his pistol slot (ya, you may need to shoot me cause I'm gonna tell on your ass went through my head). He walks up to me and says, "Is there a problem here?" (I think okay, he is going to pretend that he is clueless so I will play his game).

"Yes officer, I'd like to file a report of criminal animal abuse. I tell him that I have lived in this house for 2 months and have never seen anyone go into this building to feed or give this dog water or any attention and he was flee/tick ridden and starving and standing in his own crap chained to the wall!"

My Uncle looks at me as mean as he can and says, "you are nothing but a no good trouble making pain in the ass just like my sis says you are!"

I didn't flinch. I gave him the evil eye right back and said, "be that as it may, in the land of the fruits and the nuts we have enough sense to know that an animal is supposed to be cared for not thrown away and starved."

He pulled his wallet out of his pants and through a business card at me and got into his police car and left. I didn't move until he drove away. Buster my new best buddy was licking my hand as if to say... "my hero." I pet him and told him I'm  in for it now bud. lol. I reached down for the business card he threw at me and it had a phone number on it for kennels. I immediately went into the house and called the number. I explained to the man exactly what had happened and he told me he would come and take a look.

I waited outside with Buster playing with him and giving him water and petting him. A truck drove up with an older man in it and when he got out Buster went nuts with happiness. Buster obviously knew this man. The man came over to me and said to the dog, "my God Boy what has he done to you?" I told him the story again and he thanked me over and over for calling him. He said I saved Buster's life and I told him in a joking way, "my name is Annie Salgado and if you read about my death in the next few weeks you will know who to go after." I laughed at my little joke but I was a bit afraid of the anger my Uncle showed. The man took Buster home and I gave him the flea soap and dog food too.

I went into the house and showered and was a bit defeated. I had spent all of my hard earned saved money for my plane ticket home on the dog.  I called my Dad in CA to tell him about the dog and what had happened. Again he said he would gladly send me the money to come home. Again I declined telling him I got myself into this stupid mess and I will get myself out of it. I spoke to my Step-Mom who is really like a mom to me and she told me that my income tax check had come in. I asked her to please open it and see how much it was for. She told me it was for $350 and would I like her to mail it to me? Oh my gosh.... yes please. I knew that a plane ticket to LAX in CA was around $280 at that time. It seemed like forever but I kept working and a week or so later my money came. I was able to go into a travel agency and buy my ticket home to CA. After that I went right next door and bought the a really cute pair of grey cowboy boots. I was going to be going home in less than a week's time!

The day I left Missouri I woke up really early with excitement. I was almost floating with joy. My mother had agreed to drive me to the nearest airport which was in Tulsa Oklahoma. I was packed and ready to leave and I was sitting outside by the car waiting for my mom to come out. My Uncle walked outside when my Mom did and he said, "well kiddo, we're sure gonna miss you around here." I am not a B.S. type person so I looked right at him and said, "you know that is a lie. You know that you are as happy to get rid of me as I am to be leaving this hell hole." He said, "ya, you are right. We don't like you much." I just snorted a laugh at him and got into my mom's car.

The drive to Tulsa was way different then the one when we drove to Missouri 3 months earlier. For one thing, My baby sister wasn't in the car. She stayed home to go out with some of her friends. It was just me and my mom for 3 hours. 3 hours of almost absolute silence. She pulled into the Tulsa airport and popped the trunk of her car. I told her I love her and thanks for everything and I said I'd come around her side to give her a hug after I got my suitcase out. I went around the back of the car and got my suitcase out of the trunk and closed the lid. The second that the trunk closed, my mom drove off like a bat out of hell. I felt tears coming to my eyes but I swallowed them down like I always did. I grabbed my suitcase and walked into the Tulsa airport in my new cowboy boots for my first airplane ride ever to get back home.

When I landed at LAX in California things were different. I got off the plane and my Daddy was eagerly waiting for me along with  my brother in law Ken. They both hugged and hugged me and said they missed me. It really felt like I came home!